My brother in law filed for an order for protection against my sister last Thursday.
The affidavit he filed does not contain any actual lies in it. However, the statements he included were incomplete. The information he chose not to include provides a vastly different picture of the actual events. As a result, he obtained an order granting him custody of the 16 year old child and possession of the house.
My sister went in last Friday morning to file for an order for protection against my brother in law. My nephew went with her because there was no school that day. She got served with her soon to be ex spouse's order. My nephew informed the court that he was afraid of his father and would run away if he was forced to go stay with his father.
The court issued an order superceding the custody part of the first OFP but leaving everything else the same and granted the new order for protection. At the moment she has custody of the child and the dog, he has possession of the house.
This man is attempting to regain control that he has lost. He also froze the joint account. He then went and visited my sister's therapist. That therapist will no longer treat my sister.
We had another appearance on these OFPs yesterday. The man does not comprehend why my sister is now planning to divorce him.
Friday, March 13, 2009
Thursday, February 19, 2009
International fiber collaborative: Tree project
http://www.internationalfibercollaborative.com/html/treeproject.html
The purpose of this project is to demonstrate interdependence. They are asking people to create leaves for this tree. The will be getting leaves from all over the world.
The purpose of this project is to demonstrate interdependence. They are asking people to create leaves for this tree. The will be getting leaves from all over the world.
Wednesday, February 18, 2009
Contributing
The economy only measures money. Our lives are much more than that. This Depression the world is going through is a good time to re-evaluate the parts of our lives that are so much more than what money measures.
There are many things we can do to help both ourselves and those around us get through these tough times. We all have useful skills. We are also very creative and inventive. Among other things, I knit and crochet. I donate much of what I make to various charities. I also donate yarn and other supplies to places that make things and teach crafting skills.
My family is still in a position where we can donate to food shelves. We do that a couple of times a year. Even when it is only an item or two, the donation helps. We will also donate toiletries, kleenex, paper towels and such. Even pets need food.
Get creative and help others. It will also make you feel better.
There are many things we can do to help both ourselves and those around us get through these tough times. We all have useful skills. We are also very creative and inventive. Among other things, I knit and crochet. I donate much of what I make to various charities. I also donate yarn and other supplies to places that make things and teach crafting skills.
My family is still in a position where we can donate to food shelves. We do that a couple of times a year. Even when it is only an item or two, the donation helps. We will also donate toiletries, kleenex, paper towels and such. Even pets need food.
Get creative and help others. It will also make you feel better.
Tuesday, February 10, 2009
Half moon shaped knitted shawl
I was doing some more destashing today and found a partially knitted one that I had put a hood on. It looks like I used the magic loop cast on for socks, but instead of doing it in the round, left one side open, knitted a hood and then started the increases to get the half moon shape when the hood was long enough. That is made using the Lyon Brand Homespun yarn. I'm working on finishing that up now.
Balancing Minnesota's budget
Start with Gov. Pawlenty and Lt. Gov. Molnau taking a 20 % pay cut.
Have the other constitutional officers take a 10% pay cut.
Have all of Pawlenty's "cabinet" level employees each take a 10 % pay cut.
All other managers take a 3 % pay cut. (That would affect my family income).
Eliminate all in house hr functions within each department and transfer those functions to the Dept. of Employee Relations (which is supposed to be the state hr office and I believed is supposed to be handling all of that anyways, so why are those functions still being staffed within other departments).
Eliminate jobs of people who shouldn't even be there like Lee Nelson. He was head of the unemployment appellate level at one point. That agency is responsible for evidentiary hearings, thousands of them each year. Nelson has little if any experience doing evidentiary hearings and was clearly not qualified to hold that position. So why was he appointed to it?
I'm sure there are lots of people in positions that they aren't qualified for or were created just to keep them employed using an unfair process.
Have the other constitutional officers take a 10% pay cut.
Have all of Pawlenty's "cabinet" level employees each take a 10 % pay cut.
All other managers take a 3 % pay cut. (That would affect my family income).
Eliminate all in house hr functions within each department and transfer those functions to the Dept. of Employee Relations (which is supposed to be the state hr office and I believed is supposed to be handling all of that anyways, so why are those functions still being staffed within other departments).
Eliminate jobs of people who shouldn't even be there like Lee Nelson. He was head of the unemployment appellate level at one point. That agency is responsible for evidentiary hearings, thousands of them each year. Nelson has little if any experience doing evidentiary hearings and was clearly not qualified to hold that position. So why was he appointed to it?
I'm sure there are lots of people in positions that they aren't qualified for or were created just to keep them employed using an unfair process.
Saturday, February 7, 2009
Chase bank
For a bank that is taking public money, these people really know how to mess up thoroughly.
My husband got an overdue notice on his car payment yesterday. We did not get statements for either January or for this month. We looked at the bill for December. Turns out Chase has decided to go from monthly to quarterly statements. The notice was attached to the end of the last bill we did get and my husband did not see it. I have a feeling that lots and lots of other people also did not see that and are also now late on payments.
These people need to be more vigilant in getting this kind of change publicized. I tried calling them yesterday, was on hold for over half an hour before I finally gave up. I'm sure this mess up on the bank's part is costing it all kinds of money and this one was preventable. This really is not going to help Chase's financial picture.
My husband got an overdue notice on his car payment yesterday. We did not get statements for either January or for this month. We looked at the bill for December. Turns out Chase has decided to go from monthly to quarterly statements. The notice was attached to the end of the last bill we did get and my husband did not see it. I have a feeling that lots and lots of other people also did not see that and are also now late on payments.
These people need to be more vigilant in getting this kind of change publicized. I tried calling them yesterday, was on hold for over half an hour before I finally gave up. I'm sure this mess up on the bank's part is costing it all kinds of money and this one was preventable. This really is not going to help Chase's financial picture.
Friday, January 30, 2009
Coping skills
Coping skills are not easy to learn. The best training program I have seen so far is Marsh Linnehan's Dialectic Behavior Therapy Skills Training. Life gets complicated. Crises happen. Practicing coping skills before a crisis starts is the only way to successfuly manage one. Very few people are able to stop and think about what to do next in a crisis.
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